How to Convince a Girl to Sleep With You

Leave it to her and make this clear

Here’s the thing. The more you try to convince a woman to have sex with you, the lesser your chances are of succeeding, because in her eyes, you’re just another desperate man pushing her to have sex with. So be different. Show her that you respect her by viewing her as a normal human being and not just a sexy hottie. This might come as news to you, but women are far more attracted to men who treat them with respect than those who just want to have sex with them. This is rule #1 of how to convince a girl to sleep with you.

Show her you’re not a player

And mean it because otherwise you will just be deceiving her. At the end of your first date, just tell her, "Let’s take it easy, shall we? I like you and I respect women enough not to have sex with them on the very first date. I want you to be comfortable with me first, and then we’ll see how we can move ahead." And boom! You’re instantly 10x times more attractive to her.

Foreplay matters a lot

This is very, very important. 99% of men just want sex with a woman, but know and accept that she has needs too and in order to have your needs fulfilled, you have to fulfil hers as well. Give time to foreplay. And if she seems to enjoy it, prolong it. The more satisfied or excited she gets, the higher your chances of having sex with her are.

Explore her fantasies

Want to know how to convince a girl to sleep with you? Begin by knowing that sex is a give and take type of situation. The more you give her, the more she is likely to return the favour. So go ahead and ask her what her fantasies are. She might hesitate in the beginning, but make her comfortable enough to confide in you. And when she does confess her fetish to you, use that information to give her the time of her life.

Never force/push her

Again, it is counter-intuitive. So, for example, at the end of your date she’s had too much of wine, instead of taking up her offer on going back to her flat, call her a cab and send her off home. She sure as hell is going to respect you more if she sees you didn’t take advantage of her being drunk. Here's another example: If you’re both at your house’s entrance, ask her if she wants to come up instead of just stating it. Give her a choice, and she will be more likely to take you up on your offer.

A no means no

Despite what Hollywood has led you to believe, a woman doesn’t want you to pursue her when she says no. Her no means no and you have to respect her decision. It’s literally one of the most basic rules when it comes to how to convince a girl to sleep with you.

Remember that when it comes to sex, the ball is always in her court. So if you two are kissing and you put your hand on her thighs, watch how she reacts. Is she uncomfortable? Does she outright say no? Reduce the discomfort by stopping altogether and say to her, "We don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do". This act will make you a gentleman in her mind. Then your chances of making that no into yes may be not that hard.

Tell her why you want to have sex with her

And no, the fact that you’re horny, doesn’t count. Do be seductive and use the right words. Instead of saying, "I wanna have sex with you ‘cause you're so hot." how about you say, "You’re just so breathtakingly beautiful that I find a moment without you is a moment of my life gone to waste. I like spending time with you and I would love to take things further."

The right ambiance is crucial

Once you two have decided to get more comfortable with each other, then it comes to this important step. Women are often more aware of their surroundings than men, because sex isn’t their only focus. So you have to make it worth her while to encourage her to have sex with you. Here are some things to keep in mind:

• Freshly washed bedsheets

• No loud music or TV running in the background

• Slow/soft/romantic music playing, if at all, in the background

• Scented candles

• Making her feel at ease by offering some wine

• Low lighting

• A subtle room freshener

Such non-verbal cues are crucial when wanting to know how to convince a girl to sleep with you.